We learned pretty early on that a big part of the adoption process was waiting. Waiting for the government, waiting for forms, waiting to make decisions ...
It's ok, we're not in a really big rush. Being parents will come soon enough, we're both happy right now sucking up the very last bits of being hedonistic.
Right now our kind friends and family are writing reference applications for us - 10 or so questions that are actually really difficult. I had a friend call me and ask me how my other half - who he hasn't known as long - handles stress. "And what would he think of a multicultural child?" "And why would he be a good parent?" These are questions I would actually have a hard time answering about myself. What's worse - they have to be done by hand! Some days I think it would have been easier to knock someone up.
In September we start adoption school. 10 weeks on being parents. Then the home study. Then probably more government forms. And then ... a kid. A kid?! I still feel shock at the idea of a kid coming into our lives. Hopefully all this waiting will help.
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