When we first started talking about having a kid (obtaining a kid, finding a kid, adopting a kid, raising a kid ... what fits!?) all our straight friends thought it was great - they told us how they thought we would be amazing dads, how the experience would enrich our lives, how good - despite the sacrifices - it would feel.
When we told our gay friends about having a kid they thought we were nuts.
We have chosen a fairly traditional path for a gay couple - a monogamous relationship, marriage and now adopting a child. Yes, people are different and we know gay couples that have settled down and are choosing the same path we are - and we have straight friends that will never settle down and bring a different person to every event. But primarily, the gay community we know seems intent on moving away from the traditional definitions of a relationship. It isn't all Queer as Folk, but it isn't Leave it to Beaver either ... yeah, the pun wasn't intentional, but works.
I don't strive to have the same relationship my parents had - lived across the street from each other growing up, dating at 15, married by 20 and still going strong at 60. I did get really tired of dating and luckily happened upon the guy I was meant to be with. Kids were always an option I wanted to explore and after getting married last year (Canada rocks!), we decided to explore seriously. So, is it a gay - straight thing ... who knows. Does it feel like giving up the pride fight and giving into the straight lifestyle - no - it feels like settling down and getting on with life.
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