This is the start of a journey into fatherhood for myself and my partner. Some basic facts to begin with:
- we are gay
- we live on the west coast of Canada
- we have been married for a couple of years and together for a whole bunch more
- we are both at the end of our thirties
- we both are professionals - me CEO of a tech company and he an accountant type
And the *big* thing - the reason I am starting this blog - the game changing event - we have decided to have a child.
We have a good life - rather hedonistic in that we do what we want. We make decent money, go on vacations, live in a well-decorated condo downtown (we are gay after all) and eat out more often than naught. We have a dog - our first foray into parenthood - and she eats handmade treats and organic dog food and sleeps in a princess bed. So unlikely candidates to have their lives turned upside down by planned parenthood.
We started to examine our 'child-acquisition' options last year and looked at surrogate - too risky with a stranger and we don't know anyone willing to give up their womb for a while. We looked at international adoption - pretty well all countries now accept only married applicants and same sex marriage isn't viewed as legit. We looked at domestic adoption - we could wait forever. We talked with a friend of a friend about co-parenting - she and us would share the raising of the child - and decided there were too many unknowns.
So, last week we put an application in with the Ministry for Children and Families - the provincial government ministry that looks after children in government care - to adopt.
This is our tale ...
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